"I think I'm ready for love." Ultimately, we tend to lead ourselves out of love through unhealthy habits and our wanting of being desired. We keep love in our back pocket when we get bored or lonely. We fail to realize that love is and should be an ever-present reality. We are loved. Coming into my 20's, I've realized that as humans, no matter your race, background, or gender, we all crave love and connection. We want to be wanted and know that we matter and are seen in this world. We seek connections that are temporary to fill a void that is already filled. We grab ahold of love while we have the chance, because we think it may never come again. We think that we don't deserve a healthy, genuine connection.
We become impatient and hopeless for someone that would truly care for us. We live in a society that for some reason, people crave toxic relationships. I don't know how many times I have seen someone write that they are looking for "toxic relationships only." What kind of madness is this! We cannot afford the loss of self that these types of relationships will result in, especially if we are already broken. We put too much of ourselves in someone else's hands that doesn't deserve it, and it only leads to hurt, regret, and baggage for you and the next person to take on.
I urge everyone to guard their hearts and do the work. You must learn to truly love, appreciate, and honor yourself. Doing the work is difficult, at times does not feel good, and will break you down. But, it is to build you up stronger, wiser, and with a better sense of self. You have to choose yourself for someone else to choose the person that you truly are. Giving from a dry well only creates cycles of dysfunction.
February, also known as "love month" has passed. However, I want you to choose love every day with the person that has been with you your entire life and that will be with you until the very end. Love YOU.
Love,
Raven Renee
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